Most of us spend our lives on auto pilot. We wake up, we eat , we go to work, we eat again, we carry on working, we go home, we eat, we watch TV, we sleep and then we repeat. In an attempt to make life as easy and carefree as possible we no longer make any real decisions, other than the highly important decisions of what clothes to wear and what food to eat of course. As a consequence of this we can often find ourselves doing activities and eating foods that don't always further our goals and in some cases actually counteract them! For example, we want to lose weight so we restrict the number of calories we consume without questioning the fact the only beverages we consume are fizzy drinks, coffee with sugars, beer or wine! Alternatively we might have a passion project we've been trying to start but we're still watching TV multiple hours a day. If we were to just question these vices and substitute them with healthier more productive habits our lives would be more enjoyable! By focusing on what we are doing and the reasons why we are, we can not only substitute certain behaviours for better ones but we will find ourselves being more alert to our surroundings, we will find ourselves living in the present. By practising this mindfulness we can easily and almost effortlessly improve our quality of living!
So throughout the day just have think, why am I doing this action? Is it because I'm on auto pilot, or is it because I want to be doing it?
Remember, breathe deep, shine bright and have a great day!
We can let a light drizzle ruin our day, or we can learn to dance in the rain. We can focus on our frizzy hair and damp clothes or we can appreciate the beauty of the neon street lights glisten in the puddle. We can focus on the disruption or we can focus on the glorious post-storm smell that fills the air. The choice is ours.
Life scares me. The future scares me. I try to be the change I want to see in the world but the truth is, there's so many people being swept along in a wave of bullshit. I'm struggling to believe that one drop of sanitary drinking water in this ocean of shit is really going to have much of an effect .
Shall I compare thee to a summers day?
"It's okay to feel negative emotions"
That was one of the few stand out comments from my short time in therapy. It's something I've always struggled with. In the past I just avoided anything that would make me feel even the slightest bit negative. Now on the other hand...
Today I want to share a very special talk with you, a talk I've watched numerous times over the last year since I first saw this talk last summer. I sincerely wish I had come across it earlier. Amy Cuddy is one of the most influential Social Psychologists in the field of Body Language and even if you don't recognise her name, you'll probably recognise some of her work.
Today I'd like to talk about all the stuff in life that can knock us into a whirlwind of negativity or kick-start that spiral of depression that seems so difficult to get out of...
This isn't a cry for help. This isn't a cry for attention. This is a catalyst, a conversation starter. There are others out there who go through this. There are many others our there who feel abnormal, who feel different and there are those out there who feel inferior. This is to let them know, whoever you are, wherever you may be, that you're not alone. This is to let you know that there are others out there who feel the same things you feel and there are those who go through the same daily struggle that you go through.